• With Bipolar the key to stability during the Holidays is to keep a schedule
• Make a list that includes everything you THINK you have to accomplish

• Break down your list into two categories, Things you enjoy and the stuff that triggers negativity and stress
• Schedule the things you do enjoy
  
• Break your schedule down in to reasonable times
• Be realistic and don’t try to do it all at once
• If shopping triggers your anxiety schedule multiple trips, ask someone to go for you or shop online
• It's OK if you don't get everything done, you do NOT have to do it all
• Other people pick and choose what they want to do,why aren't you doing the same?
• Ask why you stopped putting your happiness and your safety first?

• How do You not go to a family event?
• How do You decline hosting the annual party?
• How do You tells omeone we are not exchanging gifts?

The Answer just say ... NO !

• Work together to uncover your loved ones triggers, then say NO to any activity that is on this list
• Take the time to weigh all your pros and cons, then say NO to anything that is on the list of cons
• If you know facing another holiday with your family is going to make you crazy don’t go, say NO
  
• If you absolutely feel you have no other choice but to attend an event, set a specific amount of time to spend there then stick to your limit and leave, if you're ask you to stay longer, say NO
  
• You don’t have to make excuses when it comes to your health.
  

• When you’re depressed during the holidays remind yourself it’s OK to take it easy
• If you find yourself in an episode of deep depression check in with your doctor
• Remember each holiday last only for one day
• Do NOT isolate, Canceling plans to stay home alone is Not an excepted alternative
• Have a safety plan (contact numbers close by)
• Pick up the phone and let people know you're looking for something to do
• You don't have to feel guilty for backing out of attending parties, your health always comes first
• Give yourself a break and go out to eat or order delivery
• Depression affects the people you love during the holidays accept their offer to help in any way they can
  

• The Bipolar Illness can NOT be allowed to dominate a household
• Setting good boundaries prevents you from being hurt and allows you tofeel safe in your environment
• Know yourself and what you can and cannot live with
• Be prepared to enforce consequences
• Don’t let “bipolar” divide and conquer
• Discuss your needs with other family members. Get their support and have them help
• Talk with the psychiatrist and therapist, enlist their help too
• Avoiding engaging in the poor behavior
• Keep a perspective on what's actually going on
• Write out and Sign a Boundary Contract stating what will no longer be accepted
• Have your own support system and take time to learn affective coping skills
• If your having a hard time enforcing boundaries, you may need to consider alternative care.

• Spouse
• Family
  
• Friends
• Therapist / Doctors
  
• Support groups (In person, via the phone and online)
  
• Coaches
• Coworkers
• Religious Leader
• Mentor
• Teachers
• Volunteer
• Hotline caregivers

• preplan with your ally
  
• Your ally will remind you it's time to leave a party even if you're having a great time.
• Your ally will help remember medications
• Your ally will help you stay motivated
• Your ally can monitor your moods and possibly avoid full blown episodes
• Your ally can be your "out" person, someone who steps in when its time to walk away
• Your ally will help you stay on a sleeping schedule
• Your ally will create calmness for you

• Tell your ally if you get agitated don’t take it personally
• Tell your ally if it gets to be too much it's OK to walk away and ask for help
  
• Remind your ally their health and safety is just a simportant as yours

• The biggest problem with the holidays is when you change the regular routine
• Financial stress: Stick to your budget no exceptions.
• Prone to manic spending sprees: Hand over your credit cards, check book and stay off the computer. When the euphoric feeling stops you don’t want to be left with excessive debt

• When Travel means switching time zones: Begin changes ahead of time go to bed earlier or later
  
• Flying: use music/book for diversions
• Over-stimulation or missing medications can set in to motion mixed episodes
  
• This time of the year the days are shorter and night are longer, your body may not have adjusted
  
• Common triggers around deadlines and Job related stress may not be avoided, ask for help
  
• Relationship Strains: including personality conflicts, past issues and family, keep a perspective
  
• Not taking breaks: This time of the year you have more than usual on your schedule take breaks
  
• Even having too much down time can trigger an episode

• Being around animals
• Journal
  
• Deep breathing
  
• Relaxing scents
  
• Enjoy nature
  
• Leave early
  
• Don’t rush
  
• Meditation
  
• Soothing sounds
  
• Be flexible
  
• Drink tea
  
• Dark chocolate
  
• Snooze
  
• Add omega-3s
  
• Laugh
• Let other people take control you don't have to do it alone
• Exercise
• Plan time for yourself

• Stay home and cook a new meal
  
• Watch your favorite movie or go to the theater and enjoy a night out
  
• Volunteer there are many other people who will benefit from your time 
  
• Host a low key party at your home
• Pet sit for a friend (animals are known for uplifting spirits & you're helping a friend)
• Take a vacation with activity options, go alone or with a group you'll enjoy spending the time with
  
• Drive or walk around and look at the holiday lights
• Have kids gather up old toys and clothes then donate them, keep up the giving spirit of the holiday
• Make gifts for each other
• Play boardgames, they are fun,  make time fly by, are interactive and not the TV
  
• Make plans with your neighbors, sharing with friends close to home means no travel
  
• Alternate who hosts, don't take all the burden every year
• Change formal attire to comfy or vice-versa, dress up special even if you're staying home
  
• Go caroling at hospitals, adult care houses, and rehab facilities.
• Can't be with with family set a time to call, knowing in advance eases the pressure
• Read a book by the fire and candle light, nature yourself
• Decorate the tree with new themes each year
  
• Talk about the true meaning of the holiday you are celebrating. How does each family member feel about it and does it inspire you to live life differently in the upcoming year?
• Make Christmas day special, leave a written note from Santa to read remembering of all the wonderful & good things that happened over the past year: add a little humor and or some advice
• Instead of sending useless gifts pick a charity to donate the money to
• Exercise is always beneficial, after dinner take time alone to get away from the crowd and go for a long walk

1. Create a list of everything you think you are obligated to do
2. Break down tasks into reasonable times
3. Schedule everything you like and want to do, 
4. Leave off items likely to have triggers or disrupt your enjoyment
5. Your final schedule is a list about you & your needs
6. Remind yourself it’s OK if you can’t get it all done
7. Stick to a time specific schedule
   
8. Set Boundaries, do not allow unacceptable behaviors
   
9. You have the right to Say NO
10. Everyone should have their own complete support system
11. Spot depression and allow for help
12. Have coping skills or options that will assist in calming you down
    
13. If situations becomes escalated both the sufferer and the supporter should have an “out.”
14. Your past does not have to equal your future, make changes Start New Traditions
15. Most Importantly remember You deserve to enjoy your holiday !!!